Life on Purpose Episode #10 is a heart-centered conversation with writer, speaker, and teacher Martha Du’Sage, the best-selling author of Why Bother? Because Self‐Help is Never Stupid in which we discuss abuse, suffering, heart‐centered consciousness, forgiveness, and healing.
I believe that we can’t fully live our life “on purpose” if we don’t deal with wounds from the past and so I thought this was an important conversation to have.
About Martha Du’Sage:
Martha Du’Sage is a writer, speaker, teacher, facilitator, and the best-selling author of Why Bother? Because Self‐Help is Never Stupid. Martha has stepped through the looking glass of dysfunction and sexual abuse to discover, what we can all discover, an end to suffering. Over 20 years of practicing heart‐centered consciousness has helped Martha aide others in seeing their situations in a new light. By practicing this heart‐centered knowing, a peace within can be created.
Having spent the majority of her professional career in the insurance industry and eventually owning an agency, Martha found herself often saying, “this is what I do, not who I am.” To honor the “I AM” presence that resides deep in all of us, she decided it was time to offer her voice to those that have not yet discovered theirs due to past trauma and abuse, hence the birth of her latest book.
Martha’s long journey through the conventional business industry included fitness salon owner, various sales careers and a career in the insurance industry, though she always knew that she had a different purpose. With greater attraction to the unconventional, attempting to break down worn-out paradigms and belief, she found herself more often saying, “Who says it has to be that way?” It was that desire to play in the alternative world that led her to seek knowledge from the mystical, creative realms.
Martha’s draw to the realms of spirituality and metaphysics led her to gain knowledge and wisdom from many teachers of consciousness. She also has received certification in NLP, Deeksha ‐ Oneness Blessing, Reiki, massage, reflexology, aromatherapy, body wrapping, fitness and nutrition, to name a few. In addition to writing and energy work, Martha creates aromatherapy blends as a compliment to your inner spiritual development.
Currently, she is in the process of developing several workshops, including The Heart Pillar which was introduced in her new book and is a powerful tool in creating a pillar of personal empowerment, and over-riding past hurts. She offers a variety of private sessions to help you discover the “I AM” in you.
To learn more about Martha, visit http://marthadusage.com.
Over the course of our hour-long conversation, Martha and I discuss a wide range of topics including:
- Her book Why Bother? Because Self‐Help is Never Stupid, which was written to encourage you to find a deeper knowing, awareness, and appreciation for why it IS important to bother.
- “We live in a mad, pissed-off world, and we all want ways to step beyond just coping and into moments of peace, joy and contentment.”
- Her new course The Heart Pillar – a powerful tool in creating a pillar of personal empowerment and over-riding past hurts and “11 Words to Play With.”
- “When we suffer from some sort of a trauma, we allow things that happened to us, things from our past to keep us stuck.”
- Weaving message from 80 different songs lyrics throughout the book, giving voice to those who have not yet found theirs.
- “I would turn on Pandora and a song would come on that pertained directly to what I was writing about. it was something that happened organically, but to me it was really divine intervention.”
- What are the Five Things that Martha says we are all seeking? “We want to recognize is that we are spiritual beings having human experiences, not human beings having spiritual experiences.”
- How shame, blame, guilt, denial, anger, judgement, rejection, and sadness can block us from having those experiences.
- Greg’s interview with Dr. Bernie Siegel and his take on abuse: “on the other side of love is not hate, but indifference and abuse.”
- The staggering statistic that 24% of the population claims to have been sexually abused before the age of 18.
- “Sexual abuse is something that’s been silenced for so long. It’s an uncomfortable topic and people tend to glaze over. But we can’t change it unless we bring more awareness to the topic.”
- Other types of abuse including physical, verbal, emotional, domestic, child, elder, religious, and financial.
- “I highly recommend getting multiple forms of support and help, both conventional and alternative. For myself, it’s the things like heart-centered consciousness and studies on awareness and Neuro-Linguistic programming that have had the most profound effect on my ability to transform it.”
- Practicing heart‐centered consciousness, which has helped her aide others in seeing their situations in a new light.
- “There are techniques you can learn to get yourself more grounded and focused. Especially Breathing. Then you start paying attention to the answers in the heart-center. We all start to heal more and we come up with our own answers.”
- Tools for recognizing that abuse has happened and the first steps towards trust and healing.
- The difference between feelings and emotions and how one can hold us hostage.
- Caroline Myss’ book Why People Don’t Heal and How They Can and its importance to Martha’s journey.
- How to love ourselves when we feel so unlovable?
- “Abuse is the #1 problem that we need to deal with as a society in order to evolve to become more human.”